A supportive reminder follows an agreement about when to send it and what response the other person wants. Ask first, keep the message specific and stop when the person changes their preference.
These original templates are for messages you choose to send yourself. They describe a communication agreement and make no claim about automatic reminders in Quests or another app.
Agree on the reminder before sending it
Ask which channel to use, what event should trigger a reminder and how often it is welcome. Include a way to pause reminders. Write the preference into your accountability agreement.
Would a reminder help with our reading plan? If so, tell me when you would like one and where to send it. We can change or stop the arrangement whenever you want.
A concrete reply could be: “One message at 7 p.m. on Wednesday in our existing chat would help. I will tell you if that changes.” Confirm the time zone if you live in different places.
Before a planned session
Here is the reminder you asked for: your [reading session] is planned for [time]. Hope you enjoy it.
Keep the reminder connected to the agreed action. An ordinary message is enough. Avoid adding a new target, asking for proof or turning the reminder into an evaluation of the person's commitment.
After a missing update
We agreed I would check in if your update was missing. Would you like to record how today went, adjust the next session or leave it until our review?
A missing update leaves the outcome unknown. Someone may have completed the action and forgotten to post. The check-in cards offer short ways to record completed, partial, missed and unknown outcomes.
When a person asks for a smaller plan
What would fit the next few days? We could shorten the action, choose fewer sessions or pause until [review date]. Which option would you prefer?
Let them choose their commitment. If the plan changes, record when the new target takes effect. The selected-days worksheet can help when daily practice no longer fits.
A complete example exchange
In this fictional example, Jo asks Kai for one reminder before Thursday's drawing session. Kai sends, “Your five-minute drawing session is planned for 8 p.m. Hope it is a good break.” Jo replies that a late shift means they want to pause reminders this week.
Kai answers, “Understood. I will pause them. Let me know if you want to restart.” At Sunday's agreed review, they can discuss the plan if Jo wants to. Kai keeps the pause in place until Jo chooses otherwise.
Copy the reminder agreement
I welcome a reminder for: Send it when: Channel and time zone: Maximum frequency: Message style I prefer: If I do not reply: How I will pause or stop reminders: Date to review this agreement:
Download the reminder agreement. If someone stops responding, follow the limit you agreed on. Give them room to return or close the arrangement.
Use the weekly review for larger changes and the finish reflection when the round ends.